Making Dreams Come True and Believing in Yourself

When we long for something but no matter how hard we try we cannot make it happen, is that a sign that we should get realistic and give up on our dream? I do not believe it. If anything, it is a sign that we doubt ourselves and that we think the future will be the same as the past.

When things do not work out for us it is easy to see that as evidence that we are too big for our boots, or we have our head in the clouds. It is too easy to give in and give up. But the hard evidence actually only tells us what we can see, which is what has happened so far. It does not tell us anything at all about the future, about what can and will happen.

What about all the things that I cannot see, all the facts I have not taken into consideration because I do not know about them? What about all the events that are happening outside of my experience that are drawing me towards my eventual success, events that have already started happening, perhaps? Take J.K. Rowlings, before she was published. Her first Harry Potter book was rejected plenty of times, and she was very depressed about her life. At that point she did not know that an employee in a publishing house had picked up her manuscript from a pile somewhere, and was reading it for the heck of it.

J.K. could not know that that employee would go to her editor in a day or two and say I think this is quite a good book, or that the editor would pay attention. Or that she would become world famous and massively wealthy, that her books would become a global success and be made into films that would secure the careers of a group of children. All she knew was what she had experienced to date, that publishers thought her book would not sell. She could have believed the publishers who had told her her book would not sell. She could have given up, and said everything that has happened so far has told me what the future will be. She could have withdrawn her manuscripts from all the publishers, walked away from her dreams. But she did not.

When it looks as though our dreams cannot possibly come true, that is when we have to remember that what has happened so far does not say anything about what is going to happen. We do not have to believe the people who tell us we cannot succeed. They cannot look into the future. They cannot even see everything that is happening in the present! All the so-called expert publishers who rejected J.K. are looking like fools now!

We never have to give up. We do have to keep on believing in ourselves and our dreams, no matter what anybody says, no matter what is happening around us.

Jennifer Stewart experienced bankruptcy six years ago. It changed her life dramatically - for the better! She now writes a blog about her experiences and her journey of Stepping out of History. Visit its-not-about-the-money